Wednesday, 30 November 2016


People like me use the word Very very much. And when I was writing my book on the NaNoWriMo-challenge this Infographic helped me a very much.

Tuesday, 29 November 2016

Giving Tuesday

How to Celebrate Giving Tuesday
There is no shortage of ways in which this can be done. In recent years ideas have included organizing fundraisers, with the intention of giving the proceeds to a charity. As there are many ways to give in order to help others, and many things that can be given besides just money, there have been numerous other schemes. Among these are blood drives to give some assistance to local hospitals, volunteer fairs at which individuals can pledge to give time to community projects, and families giving food from their home to local pantries. The hashtag #GivingTuesday was also created to raise awareness about the needy and encourage people to give to charities. If you like, you can join Giving Tuesday’s team of Social Media Ambassadors, who are dedicated to spreading the word about #GivingTuesday and taking collaborative action to give back. At the end of the day, the truth is that there are thousands of charity organization the world over, many of which are likely located somewhere near you. Every single one of them could use your help, so find a cause that is especially important to you personally, whether it’s fighting a certain type of cancer, helping to buy schoolbooks for children from very poor families, or helping the animals at your local animal shelter, and take action! However you choose to celebrate the day, you can then share your story with Giving Tuesday’s official website to spread the word to the entire world.

On a personal level I will be raising money among colleagues at work (some 600)to donate to the Dutch cancer fund. We got the news a few months ago another of our co-workers is badly ill as a result of lung cancer. I will put a box this week with our entrance so people can put money in it. Another colleague of mine will count the money with me and we will give it to the Dutch cancer fund.

What will you give?

Monday, 28 November 2016


I have had some disturbing weeks. My wife and daughter said to me that I forgot the most simple things for some time now. They noticed things I talked to them about and forgot about later. I noticed myself to forget more and more at work, so I made a lot more notes to do my job well.

I know that everybody is forgetting things as they grow older, or cannot find the word of a street, or a plant or a name of a co-worker. I know. People kept telling me that. But you are getting scared when that happens all the time. Scared to death. So I went to see my general practitioner and explained to her my situation. And told her there was in these months an increase of things I simply forgot. And she thought is was serious enough to send me to a  Geriatrician.

So some three weeks ago I had an appointment in hospital. A day full of neuro-tests, MRI-scan, EEG, interview with neurologists, all scheduled in one day with all planned through the day. My wife had to come as well and fill out forms, and talk to specialists on her own. It was not a pleasant day. It's very disturbing when you find out you cannot remember as much as you want to, or sometimes don't remember anything at all.

Everybody has an "angstgegner", something they fear the most of all. And the opponent I fear the most is loosing my mind in Alzheimer disease. Physical distress is bad enough of course and it's not that I would particularly like that, but Alzheimer is my deepest fear. When I was 15 years old I helped out in a psychiatric ward. I have seen so many people with Alzheimer and later on in life, experienced it from close what's it like not to recognize your own family members.

Last week I got the results. It seems the biggest fear once again is fear itself. I feel silly about it, but I was so relieved to find out they couldn't find any signs of Alzheimer on the scans. It seems I got concentration losses and the things that don't come in, you can't reproduce... It seems it's as simple as that. Anyway, that was such a relief you cannot imagine.

Now I still have things I cannot remember, but I'm not as scared of them as I used to be. It will all come back.
Some day.

Sunday, 27 November 2016

Writers Circle

Look at this wonderful circle I came across when I was trying to write my NaNoWriMo-book. It's one of those things I would like to make myself, but they are already there for everyone ready to pick up at their leisure. It's some emotion chart, from basic emotions to more detailed...

Saturday, 26 November 2016


I found this beautiful photo and text on Tumblr and it really moved me. I hope it does the same to you.

 By Your loving dominance,
You make me secure enough to surrender myself to You.
By Your loving protection,
You make it safe enough to devote myself to You without fear.
You master me with Your steadfast love,
You teach me with Your consistent dominance and
You guard me with Your unceasing protection.
As You defend me from a harsh, hateful and judgmental world,
I am strong enough and safe enough to pour out my life in utmost devotion to You,
so that the only Person I’m most vulnerable to
is You my Master, my Protector, my Love.

Serena Brann a.k.a. Renee Me'shan

Friday, 25 November 2016

Rope and more rope

I'm in love with this picture. It speaks to me on so many levels.
I love the creativity of her blouse and skirt immobilize her, because all the wires are so tight. She cannot move an inch, because if she does the clips will fall off and it's clear that she moved.
I love the way her neck is held high and is connected on her back to the chest ropes. It would be even more enthralling if we could see her back and know that behind that blouse her elbows are bound as well.
I love the way her tits are bound and that it's so tight you can see the flesh bulging above the rope and even if her chest is small, it's bound with rope and more rope. The rope had to be secured before the blouse was taken up again, because otherwise there's no way her chest bondage could be done.
I love the way her hands are tied, with a forced distance between them. Simple yet effective.
I love the way the white make contrast to the red on the background.

I don't like the look on her face. She is paid to model by the hour I think.
I don't like the hair. It's a wig I think. If it's not hair bondage is always very exciting.
What do you think?

Thursday, 24 November 2016

I'm giving in

What was painfully obvious in the Nanowrimo-bar on the right, I came to terms with yesterday: I will not finish in November the 50.000 word challenge. Not a chance.

There are some good things coming from this challenge though. I have a detailed outline in my head how the storyline should look like and I will enjoy writing the story after this month as well.  I'm not making myself crazy over some story I have to finish in seven days. It's just a date and it would have been nice if I could have done it, but now it's time to finish the story in Dutch, so I can translate it in English at some later date.

It's not like I'm going for the Nobel price in literature anyway, but than again, look at Bob Dylan, anything is possible. I'm keeping all options open...


Wednesday, 23 November 2016


It will not come as a surprise that Waiting is an essential part of our play.
Waiting in a Nadu-way is very arousing. And waiting just for the door to open is an experience worth waiting for. Imagine you open the door. The door can be fully opened without hurting her. And she, with her knees soooo wide on the floor. It will hurt, I think to wait until her master comes along.

But think of the reward he will give her to find her this way! Loving submission with an exclamation mark!

Tuesday, 22 November 2016


Now this is a part of play we hardly ever play. Sometimes (when I am in the mood, and my Wanita is feeling very submissive) I use the command "Give my your tongue Wanita." And it really turns me on if her tongue is out and the saliva is dripping on her body. Or I grab her tongue like in the picture. If she has her blindfold on, her level of submission goes up by the factor 10.

Monday, 21 November 2016


Not sure these are real, or clever Photoshop products, they are weird. Fantasy.

I think? Ever had such fantasy, being just a decoration in the house, some beautiful ornament? I guess few us have. The pictures are stunning though.

Or maybe this one is more to your taste?

Sunday, 20 November 2016

Look at me

Look at me, Little One, look into my eyes and tell me what you see there. No, No. Keep those hands where they are. That's right. Good girl. I am proud of you.

Friday, 18 November 2016

Computer breakdown

Computers are little miracles.
Computers can do unbelievable things.
If they work.

When I started my computer on Tuesday. And the screen stayed blank. One hundred percent nothing, not even entering it's Bios.anymore.

Now I am working with this laptop for the bare essentials . The space key doesn't work very well so I have to get back a lot. Kind of unwanted backspace, in a way.. Smile.

The advantage of your own computer is that it's tuned to all your own preferences.
But it only makes some noise now, and nothing more.

May it rest in peace.

Thursday, 17 November 2016

What a waste

Every day I see a big ship full of containers with garbage going from Rotterdam to the Hague to dispose of the garbage the people of Rotterdam collected.
It makes you aware how much we throw away and what we do with that.

I saw on Facebook this movie that says Sweden burns all it garbage and only has 1% waste left. The Swedes, Mona Lisa will agree with do these things better than most countries. Is it possible do make less waste? Some people really take a stand in this issue like this woman does:

Wednesday, 16 November 2016


A Sunny Girl, but she doesn't notice. Her mind is elsewhere. She is mentally preparing for what is to come. Her head low in submission, she awaits what's in stall for her.

Tuesday, 15 November 2016


The canvas of a painter. The rope is gone but the marks are still on her body. And she loves it. Or maybe it's just cold. The rope so intimate around you can be soooo arousing. It's pretty and she is proud to show it.

Monday, 14 November 2016

Undress me

But you are not allowed to use your hands. Every man's fantasy, without exceptions I think...

Saturday, 12 November 2016

Not my president

In the Netherlands we have a king not a president. That king, one Willem Alexander, doesn't rule the country like a president does, the prime minister of the Netherlands, a jerk named Rutten, is responsible for all his actions. But in the United States of America they elect a president every four years. Like the Olympics. And that it's hard work you can see on mr. Obama's face before and after he served two periods of four years.

And the people has chosen as their president-elect is Mr. Trump. Mr. Donald Trump is a businessman and that is what he promised to do. Run the united states of America as a business. Creating jobs, find work, restore buildings and airports and roads. The complete infrastructure. That sounds good to me. If Mr. Trump wants to finance his plans by cutting back his defence budget, well that sounds good to me as well. It will force European leaders to take care of their own defence and not to rely on the united states of America.

The hashtag "Not my president" on Twitter is a trending topic, and people go into the streets with that slogan. People deeply feel not to be represented by this president-elect. That is the result of Mr. Trumps campaign where he has deeply insulted people by race, gender and faith. And now the States of America are no longer United. Collateral damage to a presidential campaign is apparently a deeply divided country.

But shouting "Not my president" doesn't help either. Looting and fighting policemen is just plain stupid. The only thing that we all can do is hope that this man finds a way to unite all of his countrymen, in spite of religion, race or gender. Because he needs every single one of them. So many people of this huge country has chosen him over Mrs. Clinton and let's hope that these elections were not rigged like mr. Trump said before the elections many, many, many times. Never heard him after the elections about rigged elections.

To my simple brain the credo "One man, one vote" is more fair than this system Mr. Trump delivered the Presidency. One man one vote, is called in America "a popular vote", and counts for nothing. The system needs to be changed, the political system where the common people do not recognize themselves in the leadership of the country needs to be changed.

And Mr..Trump is supposed to change it.
He made the worst start a man could ever make.


So sorry, busy right now. With what you ask? Do you need to ask? A little office humour!

Friday, 11 November 2016

My hands are tied right now

My hands are tied. Or we are both tied to each other. Ties that last a lifetime. Visual like this one, or invisible most of the time.

Thursday, 10 November 2016

My hands and spooning

How I love to spoon my girl and my hands go almost automatically to this position. Holding her tight.
Soft. Warm. Full. Rich.

I love it.

Wednesday, 9 November 2016


I want to savour you. All of you. I want you. Now. NOW.
Surrender to my tongue.
I'm going to eat you.
And I start with your tongue!

Tuesday, 8 November 2016


Beautiful people are nice to look at, but most people, like Wanita and myself, are not super skinny or beautiful people. Just people.Like this couple. I think they are beautiful. And strong. And loving...

Monday, 7 November 2016

Writing month

 Two years ago I had never ever heard of NaNoWriMo. The American National Writing Month. Annual as well by the way :-)

Well so I decided to join this year to write a novel of 50.000 words in one month.
And full of optimism I started in English. So, when the writing was done, one more edit and I could blog it in December.

Smile. Mark Twain said "Optimist: day dreamer more elegantly spelled." So 4 november, 4 days after 4000 words in English, I decided to stop and begin again in Dutch. The direct cause to all of this was my daughter.

She in all innocence was telling me she was following this podcast My Dad Wrote Porno

In this hilarious podcast the question is asked what would you do if your dad suddenly (and seemingly drunkenly) self-published an erotic novel, despite the fact that he’s a pretty terrible writer and evidently has no concept of what’s sexy or even a basic understanding of female anatomy?
The answer probably isn’t read it to the world chapter-by-chapter, but that’s exactly what James Morton did, and he brought his two horrified and bewildered friends along for the ride. The result is a 13-part podcast that’s at turns hilarious and so cringe-inducing it hurts. Who knew the ‘pots and pans’ industry could be so debauched? 

Reading some of it back, I thought my lack of talent was obvious enough, so I wouldn't risk to write it in a foreign language. You know the language I don't know when to write "than" or should it be "then"? I will never understand the difference, and I'm sure on this Blog I have written it countless times wrong.

I know my handful loyal blog readers wouldn't mind so much, but that's not what I had in mind, writing it. So change of plan: I will write it in Dutch now, finish the 50000 words in time, and then I will translate it page by page and hope to find a proofreader somewhere who is willing to fight trough my manuscript all 50.000 words. When all is finished (When/Whan?) I will publish it on my blog.

So, If you think "Han is awful quiet tonight!" it's because Han is writing...

Sunday, 6 November 2016

Favourite five: The Posture Collar

A real posture collar, this one. Made for one thing only, to look beautiful.

Head held high. Proud. Not allowed to watch downwards. Making your neck look as long as African women do. It's what I always imagined in the training Carrie book.

A beautiful ending to a beautiful series!

Saturday, 5 November 2016

Favourite four: Prominent closed front

 Some neck corsets are discreet, like the one yesterday. This one is the opposite. With a leather lace you could make it more tight. You want it nice and tight around the neck and throat.

Elegant, black neck corset made of a fabric mix with black pinstripe and slight elevations, decorated with velvet ribbon and additionally satin. Elaborately worked: lined, eyelets with washers, edged and of course reinforced with bars! The minimum lashing distance is about 31.5cm, upward it is of course variable.

Friday, 4 November 2016

Favourite three: Nuit Indienne

Not all neck corsets have to look they come right out of Fifty Shades of Bondage. This one is a good example that does what it's supposed to do, and yet look very playful:

Manuela Biocca made this one and the combination with the necklace makes it quite different. I like it very much. She says this about it:

The corset necklace Indian Night SILK is a majestic jewel that elegantly dress your neck. This UNIQUE PIECE transport you to the exoticism of India, its bouquet of colours and enchanting scents. On the back of it is a black satin ribbon lacing edged with LACE roses that will perfectly adjust this adornment to your neck.

Thursday, 3 November 2016

Favourite two: Penny's Dreadful Neck Corset

The doll seems a bit afraid of the collar, and the name "Penny's dreadful Neck Corset, doesn't help either. Lisa Anderson specifications of her hand sewn corset are:

  • Penny Dreadful inspired Vampire Neck Corset
  • Hand sewn neck corset/posture collar
  • Black pinstriped polyester/spandex fabric (5% spandex for a little give)
  • 9 strips of plastic boning
  • Silver laceup grommets at back
  • Black laceup cord
  • Black accent buttons in front
  • Penny Dreadful inspired neck corset
  • Modesty panel at back, allows this pattern to fit more neck sizes
  • Works well for bondage posture collar or Gothic bridal corset
Gothic bridal corset? Perhaps. It will make a wonderful bondage posture collar though.

Wednesday, 2 November 2016

Neck corset week

Remember Corset Week? And I found out that the Neck Corset is as much fun and interesting and well... plain erotic as Corsets are. I will post these next few days the Neck Corsets I like.
No, the Neck Corsets I LOVE.

These are all available from Etsy and I have no ties or bonds with any of them whatsoever. I just want to point out those I love to see for you to get inspired. Nothing as erotic as a woman forced to look you in the eye and not be able to look down. It's a power thing. But if it's so pretty as this first one, it's jewellery.

This one is made by Olga and on sale at Etsy for 52,58 euro.
This dramatic neck corset is made from stretch, black lace fabric with a floral print
  • The neck piece is reinforced with spiral steel boning
  • It laces up at the back through a set of silver grommets
  • The bottom is embellished with a black lace trim
  • One size fits most-for a neck of about 12.5 inches in circumference
It can be worn back to front, see how lovely it looks:

Tuesday, 1 November 2016

Playing her like a harp

Not for the faint of heart this one. WARNING ABOUT THIS PICTURE. It contains bondage and needle play. If you are not into that, skip this post.

Playing her like a harp.. is not like playing her like a violin. Playing her like a harp is much more painful. But everyone knows a harp makes a wonderful sound.

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